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Talking To Children About Sexual Abuse

If you ever feel that your child has been subjected to inappropriate treatment at school, you or your child should contact your school’s principal or guidance counselor immediately. 
February 17, 2012

Dear Parent or Guardian,

Many of you have seen reports about three incidents of sexual misconduct in our schools on the news and we are all extremely concerned for the safety of our children. While these separate incidents were alleged to occur in just three of our 1,700 schools, this is three incidents too many.

I am writing to convey to you how seriously I am taking these allegations and to inform you of the steps we are taking as a Department to support affected school communities and to ensure the safety of our children in all of our schools.

I am in regular contact with the principals at these schools, and have visited the schools several times to meet with staff, parents, and students. We continue to have crisis teams at each school to support students, families and staff during this difficult time. In addition, we have shared resources with parents at these schools about how they can have age-appropriate conversations with their children, and have advised them on actions they should take if they have concerns that their children may have been affected directly by these incidents. If you would like to view these resources, they are available online at http://schools.nyc.gov/ParentsFamilies.

Going forward, my staff will take the following actions:

Investigative reports with substantiated findings and disciplinary action will be entered into our system in such a way that pertinent information will be visible to schools for consideration when making hiring decisions.

But, as recent incidents highlight, thinking prospectively is not enough. That is why my staff will look back at substantiated cases of misconduct and take appropriate action where necessary to ensure the safety of our students.

While I cannot discuss the details of each case due to ongoing criminal investigations, I want you to know that the Department is cooperating fully with the investigations of the FBI, NYPD, and the United States Attorney and District Attorney’s offices. In all cases, investigators may contact parents if they suspect that their children may have been involved either as witnesses or victims.

As Chancellor—and, indeed, as a parent and grandparent—nothing is more important to me than our students’ safety. I know that you likely have questions in the wake of these allegations. I want to reassure you that our schools have supports in place to promote a safe and secure learning environment in every one of our schools, including age-appropriate curricula around social and emotional health as well as school staff trained to address these needs. We will continue to look for additional ways to support our schools in this effort.

If you ever feel that your child has been subjected to inappropriate treatment at school, you or your child should contact your school’s principal or guidance counselor immediately.

Again, we take matters like these very seriously. The Department will continue to offer support and maintain regular contact with the school and parent leadership at affected schools to provide answers to other questions that may arise.

 
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Resources to Help You Talk To Children About Sexual Abuse

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry
A leading national professional medical association dedicated to addressing the mental health care needs of children and their families. 

PDF - 25 x 25Facts For Families Responding to Child Sexual Abuse - Fact Sheet
Fact sheet from American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry to help families respond to children who say they have been sexually abused.

PDF - 25 x 25When To Seek Help For Your Child - Fact Sheet
Fact sheet from American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry to help families determine if a psychiatric evaluation may be useful for their child.

StopITNow
Organization dedicated to preventing the sexual abuse of children.

What is Considered Child Sexual Abuse 
StopITNow webpage defining child sexual abuse and a list of abusive physical contact and non-contact behaviors. 

Warning Signs in Children and Adolescents of Possible Child Sexual Abuse
StopITNow webpage listing behaviors families may see in a child or adolescent as well as physical warning signs.

Age-Appropriate Sexual Behavior
StopITNow webpage listing age-appropriate sexual behaviors for various age groups.

PDF - 25 x 25Child Abuse Tip Sheet
Tip sheet from StopITNow to help families protect their child from sexual abuse.

National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Academic and community-based service centers whose mission is to raise the standard of care and increase access to services for traumatized children and their families.

PDF - 25 x 25Child Sexual Abuse Fact Sheet
Fact sheet from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network for parents, teachers and other caregivers.

PDF - 25 x 25Questions and Answers About Child Sexual Abuse
FAQ from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network including "What is child sexual abuse?"; "Is there any way to prevent abuse?"; "Are any particular children at increased risk?"
 
PDF - 25 x 25Questions and Answers About Child Sexual Abuse Treatment
FAQ from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network including "How do I know if my child who has been sexually abused needs treatment?"; "How can parents know if a treatment for child sexual abuse is effective?"

Prevent Child Abuse America
Organization whose mission is to prevent the abuse and neglect of our nation's children. 

PDF - 25 x 25Approach to Prevent Child Abuse – Fact Sheet 
Fact sheet from Prevent Child Abuse America on support programs for new parents, programs for abused children, child and family treatment and more.

PDF - 25 x 25Approach to Prevent Sexual Abuse of Children – Fact Sheet 
Fact sheet from Prevent Child Abuse America on what sexual abuse of children is, who the victims are, what are the signs/effects, what can be done, and more.

PDF - 25 x 25How to Report Child Abuse and Neglect – Pocket Guide from the New York City Administration for Children's Services
Step-by-step guide for adults on how to report child abuse and neglect.

PDF - 25 x 25Be Alert: Warning Signs that Warrant Your Attention
Behavioral, emotional, physical, and cognitive indicators that may be warning signs that a child may benefit from a clinical evaluation and/or additional services. 

PDF - 25 x 25Myths vs. Facts About Child Sexual Abuse and Prevention Education 
Fact sheet for parents depicting myths vs. facts about child sexual abuse.

PDF - 25 x 25Protecting Children Against Sexual Abuse Pamphlet - New York State Office of Children & Family Services
Pamphlet for adults that includes a definition for child sexual abuse, a list of tips and resources for how to prepare and talk with children about sexual abuse, and more.


PDF - 25 x 25Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Overview
Fact sheet from the National Sexual Violence Resource (NSVR) Center that provides an overview of child sexual abuse prevention and offers resources and answers to frequently asked questions.

Operation Safe Child - New York State Division of Criminal Justice Services
Operation Safe Child was through a partnership with the New York State Sheriffs' Association, New York State Association of Chiefs of Police, New York State Police and the New York City Police Department (NYPD). Operation SAFE CHILD provides parents and guardians with three tools to promote child safety:

    1. Know your child's information by obtaining a free SAFE CHILD card
    2. Know your child's friends by learning about Internet safety
    3. Know your neighborhood by using the New York State Sex Offender Registry